June 18, 2010: Being mad, holding grudges wastes precious time, by Chelsea Martin

June 18, 2010 by

Everyone in this world makes mistakes, some times big and sometimes small. But if someone makes the mistake that affects you, you may find yourself asking,  “Do I forgive them?” This question can be hard to answer.

Life is a precious gift, and it doesn’t last forever. But being mad at someone, or “holding a grudge,” wastes some of that precious time and it doesn’t help solve the problem.
When you hold a grudge against someone, that person is always on your mind.  You find yourself stressing out about being mad at that person, and when you finally go and make amends, it’s often too late.

Never go to bed angry at someone for making a mistake. When you wake up, that person may not be there.  Then you find yourself living in guilt and hurt for simply not saying “I forgive you.”
Accountability is taking responsibility for your actions.  If you make a mistake, take the blame.  You wouldn’t want someone else blaming you for their mistakes so don’t do it to them.

If you have blamed your own mistake on someone else, forgive yourself, move on and learn from it.  Most of the time, the wisest person in the room is the one who has made most of the mistakes.  Without people making mistakes in this world, we all would have no idea what we were doing.  We hope that we can learn from mistakes.
I’m sure most people have heard of Rachel Scott, who was one of the students killed in the Columbine school shooting in 1999. In her memory, her family created a presentation titled “Rachel’s Challenge.”  It includes five challenges that were taken from her writings. One of them is: “Use kind words and start a chain reaction with family and friends.”  That means giving someone a compliment or forgiving someone.  If you do this, the idea may catch on with others.
Accountability is probably one of the best traits anyone can have, mostly because it’s connected to all the other good traits a person can have. If you can have the honesty to step up and say “I did it!” anyone who hears you say that will know that you have the responsibility to take blame for your own mistakes.  Anyone who hears you say that will also know that you aren’t a liar; the will know they can trust you.  Life is too short to lie all the time.
Rachel Scott lost her life at age 17.  That goes to show that you never know when you’ll say your last goodbye to someone, or your last hello.  Don’t make the last thing you say to someone hurtful.  Forgive and forget. You’ll be happier in the long run.

— Chelsea Martin will be a freshman at Concordia High School. She is the daughter of Jason and Denise Martin.


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